In this workshop, we will explore, reflect and jointly make meaning of the somatic nature and five key obstacles to presence in coaching as a growth and development intervention. We will create space for leaving our own default state of presence that feels most comfortable. We will reflect a) the consequences of both our presence-less-ness in our comfort zone, and b) our presence-ness integrating the I, the Other, and the We in coaching. We will work with Integrative Presence.
I didn’t know what to expect when I signed up for the Integrative Presence Program! However, I trusted…
When I decided to participate in the integrative presence training I was pretty sure that I had…
In integrative presence training I learned about the different types of sensing and about my …
The most important element for me is myself as the instrument and to read and feel…
Presence is a complex subject and giving attention to needs in the four spheres of our conscious…
The Integrative Presence program inspired, designed and performed by the pioneer Tünde Erdös with the impeccable…
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I didn’t know what to expect when I signed up for the Integrative Presence Program! However, I trusted Tünde and wanted to be challenged with applying leading-edge research.
In the program, I experienced a different way of being in client relationships. Rather than the traditional ‘hold the space’ for the client relationship where the coach is almost a neutral party, I learned that it is important to bring ourselves more fully to co-create our relationship with the client. It is not just our words, intonations, and intentions that define the relationship, it is our senses and body reactions that affect presence. Noticing at a deeper level is how I would describe it.
Our interactions with the client go beyond the ‘we’ of the relationship to include the ‘I’, ‘all’, and ‘omni’ spheres. This was a new concept for me and opened up new possibilities to be present, adding richness and depth to the coach-client relationship.
While I wasn’t sure what to expect, I wasn’t disappointed! Tunde, Claire, and my fellow participants created an experience that was challenging, enlightening, frustrating at times, and rewarding.
When I decided to participate in the integrative presence training I was pretty sure that I had a clear understanding of my person and my “being present”. However, on writing my reflection paper after the first session, I recognized that there was much more to the concept of “present” than I had been aware of. Moving through the training, I was challenged in different ways – not only intellectually. I tried to learn to interact with my body, which is also “talking” to me. And I learned that this is not magic because there are scientific methods available to make relationships and emotions visible. Hence, my takeaway from this training is that interacting with my body in the here and now makes me feel better and more efficient and aware of how I appear to my environment.
In integrative presence training I learned about the different types of sensing and about my default settings around sensing. It was very interesting to connect my personal reflections with scientific knowledge. The scientific approach made it easier for me to see the advantages but also the limitations of my own way of making sense of the world. It opened my mind to be aware of different sensing types when I interact with others.
The most important element for me is myself as the instrument and to read and feel the verbal and nonverbal signals emitted by my clients in a group. What I enjoyed most was the link as some bonding that emerged between the participants as well as o sense the impact of spheres on the leaders as the clients.
Presence is a complex subject and giving attention to needs in the four spheres of our conscious existence is a great pathway to presence. Until I discovered this I shouted around to anyone who would listen to me that ‘meditation was the path to presence’….. a few months later I’d be heard saying yoga is the key to presence. … then again somatics, mindful eating, etc, etc..
And people would resist, they wouldn’t do the meditation…. and I’d get frustrated.
I’ve discovered that these were the practices that allowed ME meet what I needed in order to be present. So now, when I just think the word needs – my body softens. It is literally telling me: ‘Yes, just pay attention to needs and we will be safe to explore, learn and create and connect.’ Through liminal space between us. We all grow and learn.
How about a somatically integrative Presence slogan…. “Just be it”. And the Nike tick turns into a fractal!!! So I’m going along with that flow and observing the cycles and fractals that present themselves. When I do this compassionately, I tend to do it productively. And that feels like a good path.
Without integrated present moment awareness it is likely that my thoughts, behaviours and actions will be more stained by my attachments and aversions. When I do not honour presence in the four spheres, I am less attuned to my true authentic self, my needs, others’ needs and the need of what needs doing.
With integrated present moment awareness I am gloriously grateful that I have CHOICE. I choose to follow my values. Through experience and contact with the world and other, I revisit fractals of life of those gone before – I wish to bring my senses to them compassionately and chose what to do next. I enjoy creating and pioneering with new ideas. I can chose to leave the frustrations behind.
The Integrative Presence program inspired, designed and performed by the pioneer Tünde Erdös with the impeccable contribution by Claire Venetsanakou, exceeded my expectations. As a scientist and coach, I really appreciate that it is based on solid and innovative research.
The findings and most of all Tünde’ s insightfulness and commitment have given birth to a unique coaching training for everyone and without any doubt mandatory for all coaches in order to thrive in the new era of digitalization and overwhelming information.
It has been an irresistible experience. We need more!! Congratulation Tünde and Claire you are building a fantastic and powerful partnering for the sake of all.